I really am a forgiving, patient person, but if I examine myself closer, I can come up with a few grudges.
1. There is a family we have been generous with who only ended up taking advantage of us. Not that we expected our acts of generosity to be reciprocated, or even appreciated, but when all they would return to us was disrespect, we knew it was time to distance ourselves.
2. I will not shop at Woodman's. I don't care if it is employee owned. I was waiting in line to pick up my developed film. In the check out area was a basket full of Tootsie Pops. Having two little boys in tow, of course they wanted a Tootsie Pop. I picked up the candy and waited my turn in line. When it was my turn to pay, MR. RUDE, refused to ring up the candy saying this was the photo line only. He required me to pay for the photos and then get in a different line, in another area of the store, to pay for the tootsie pops. WHY THEN HAVE THE CANDY IN THE PHOTO AREA IF YOU CAN'T PAY FOR IT THERE!!! I have never shopped at Woodmans since and never will.
3. An extended family member once treated my son very poorly. Its very difficult to forgive those who have wronged your children.
4. I was nine months pregnant, working in corporate hell. We had an employee of the week reward allowing you to park close to the door to the building. I had won the previous week's reward, and the next woman to win was a bus rider and didn't need a parking space. She offered to allow me to park there another week, seeing I was overdue and having a difficult time waddling into work. One day after her kindness, security stopped me and made me move my car. It did not matter even after the woman tried to explain to security she wanted me to be able to use the spot in place of her. The parking spot sat empty the rest of the week. I left work after my son was born and never went back.
5. Anne - She knew we were a couple. She seduced him anyway. Of course, it does take two. His betrayal was just as hurtful to me, if not more so. It took an act of God, literally, to help me find forgiveness. The Lord helped me through it and today I understand why. Maybe this truly isn't a grudge I hold anymore, since I've forgiven them both, but whenever I hear of someone cheating on someone else, it strikes a chord. I will never be a Brangelina, Tiger Woods or Jesse James fan. Infidelity seems to be a greater sin to me than a few others.
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7 comments:
Those are some pretty heavy grudges, Dawn, and in the same situations, I doubt that I could let go completely, either. Peace and hugs to you for recognizing them, and for dealing with them!! Kudos.
Wow Dawn.....I am truly blessed by your transparency. You really really encourage me. I have a good friend who is going through #5 at the moment and since I haven't been through that myself, all I've been able to do is listen to her (which I know she needs). I have shared with her about other Christian couples who have, by the grace of God, made it through that situation too. HUGS
I think this sounds like a great thing to do. I'm sure if I examine my heart, I have a lot of these that I can share too!
Those are very deep grudges Dawn but I understand each of them and don't blame you. I am forgiving but when something isn't right I find it hard. It's like they say, you can forgive but you never forget. Well, that is 100% true for me, I never forget anything.
I have a few grudges too. You're not alone
My DH says I'm better at holding grudges than anyone he knows....he didn't know my grandmother well enough, then. lol COMPLETELY agree about B-A, TW, and JJ....
Those tootsie pop and parking spot incidents are just plain ridiculous! That's bureaucracy for you, I guess.
Your blog reminds of an old saying - Forgive but Never Forget, this is so true with grudges.
Woodman's isn't one my favorites either, tried shopping there a few times but only found the employees unhelpful and rude. Glad there is not one where we live, the closest is 45 miles away.
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