I told DS11 to tell me if I get this way. Yesterday I witnessed a mother IMO, disrespecting her son. She had arrived early for his lesson so she told him to wait alone while she ran to the store. I thought this was harsh. She could have spent those 15 minutes with her son, enjoying his company. She could have ran her errand after his class began. When she returned at the end of the lesson, she opened the door to the men's locker room and started yelling at him to come out now. The poor kid just got out of the water and needed to change! This young man was probably 13? I felt embarrassed for him. When he came out, he was clearly upset. Her schedule was more important to her I guess. I told my son, if I ever get that way, say something! I don't want to be the kind of parent who forgets my child is a human being with feelings, worthy of my respect.
I can try to see this event from the mother's point of view. She probably had tons to do, places to get to. But perhaps she could have better managed her time, or at least laid out her expectations for her son to comply with her schedule. She seemed so rushed. I felt sorry for her. Her stress was also causing stress for her son, effecting their relationship.
I hope I can remember when I'm stressed, to slow down and remember what's really important.
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